Comments on: The Single Life

By: Karen

Karen — Sat, 19 Sep 2009 05:08:07 +0000

Brian,

You are way too cute to be worrying about being single…

By: lesbrarian

lesbrarian — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 04:27:54 +0000

No, you’re looking at it all backwards. The reason not to date patrons is that THEY STILL CONTINUE TO COME TO THE LIBRARY, even after the relationship ends. And then you have to be civil and professional toward them. It’s horrible. A guy asked me out once because he liked the books on my Staff Recommends shelf (well of course he did, I have impeccable reading tastes), and that was all well and good at first, but after everything went kaplooey? He still kept visiting the library, instead of falling off a cliff like I’d asked him to.

By: The REAL Liz

The REAL Liz — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 04:03:25 +0000

Hey, I didn’t say that! But I did improve it and send it to Brian, so I’ll forgive the misappropriation of my name.

Won’t the real Liz Shady please stand up?

By: Liz

Liz — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 02:59:21 +0000

Ahh, what a little spare time, and a good deal of MS Paint patience, hath wrought...

By: Brian Herzog

Brian Herzog — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 02:56:06 +0000

An off-shoot from @Liz and @Lezbrarian: while getting my MLIS at Kent State, I worked in the campus library at the reference desk. A coworker and I decided that we'd be reluctant to date patrons, because when the relationship ended, we wouldn't want the patron to stop using the library because they knew we'd be there. Granted, an academic library is different than a public library, but how do you think that logic squares with your "meet people through work" theory?

By: Liz

Liz — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 00:08:13 +0000

Aww man. I should know better than to argue anything with librarians – you’re the only group of people I know who can cite sources more readily than we law students can.

By: lesbrarian

lesbrarian — Sun, 28 Jun 2009 19:53:03 +0000

Liz: sorry, that’s not gonna fly. See The Prisoner’s Wife: A Memoir, by asha bandele (poet meets and marries man serving time for second-degree murder) or Bridget Kinsella’s Visiting Life: Women Doing Time on the Outside (memoir of a literary agent who falls in love with an inmate, as well as a sociological examination of women who love prisoners).

By: Liz

Liz — Sun, 28 Jun 2009 11:53:33 +0000

lesbrarian said: ‘You meet new people all the time: every day, all day long, by nature of your job, you meet new people. You do not even have the standard excuse: “Ach, well, I’m just so busy with work that I never meet anyone.”’

It is for that very reason I am considering criminal law as a vocation: so that when people ask “but don’t you meet any nice single men through work?” I can reply “sadly, no – just felons.”

By: Auntie Nanuuq

Auntie Nanuuq — Sat, 27 Jun 2009 16:25:52 +0000

And? I’m 54 and a “single librarian”! What’s the point?

By: Brian Herzog

Brian Herzog — Sat, 27 Jun 2009 16:15:53 +0000

Ha – thanks everyone. I hesitated publishing this post, because I don’t mean to be knocking being single – more the stigma that seems associated with it. Everything has pros and cons, of course, and relationships are certainly no exception.