Here’s another one of those coincidences with the same topic popping up in different contexts throughout the day.
On my way in to work one day last week, I heard a story on the radio (via the BBC) talking about how children are becoming more sexualized. I wouldn’t have thought this was possible, but the report described how, for decades, society has told little girls that they need to be thin and pretty. But recently, society has ramped up this message, telling them they need to be thin and pretty and sexually-attractive to boys. It seemed to say that now it’s not just about looks, but that sex appeal is also required.
Later at work, our Teen Librarian asked me if I’d heard of a “princess bible.” I hadn’t, so I looked it up, and sure enough they areforsale. Our reactions were the same, and echoed the point of the radio show earlier: isn’t this an odd mixture of religion and sassy sexy self-image?
Not necessarily, of course, because I know my niece likes Disney princesses, and that is totally innocent. Perhaps I’m just being over-sensitive on the little girl sex angle. Maybe it’s just the marketing gimmicky feel of it I don’t like - it seems akin to using a cartoon camel to peddle cigarette to children. I guess I just question what this princess message is trying to appeal to in young girls - and whether that should be necessary to sell Bibles. It seems a bit at odds with the pious modesty of Christianity.
Perhaps it’s just my hyperactive paranoia, but anytime someone asked me an unusual question or acts strangely, I think it’s some kind of “secret shopper” evaluating my performance. Case in point, a little while ago the reference desk received the following email:
is there a contest I can use to make my kid a famous poet?
That was it - no name, no other information, just that one line. The email address seemed legitimate, so I researched it a bit and replied:
I think I’ll need a little bit more information from you, but I do have some suggestions. It would be helpful to know the age of the child, and also what you’re looking for in a contest: are you looking for a venue for live readings, a mail-in contest with winners and prizes, just somewhere that will print poetry from children, or something else entirely?
Our Childrens Rooms subscribes to lots of magazines that accept poetry submissions from children. They’re not exactly contests, but the poetry is judged to see if it’s worthy of publishing in their magazines. One magazine that publishes a lot of poetry is “New Moon” but others do as well.
The Chelmsford Library has a “poetry slam” every April, which is open to all ages. It is a contest in which winners are chosen, but as our website says, it is a gentle contest. And it’s held in April because that is National Poetry Month - during that month, there are a lot of other local poetry-related events, but those usually aren’t announced or publicized until closer to April.
There are also lots of online poetry contests - here are a few websites I found:
Another resource is the Massachusetts Poetry Festival website, which is building a database of both poets and venues. It doesn’t seem like it’s ready yet, but their website has a list of the people building the database, so they may have information on contests they could provide you with.
Lastly, I found a article on the eHow.com website that probably says a lot of what you already know, but also had a few interesting tips relating to childrens’ poetry contests.
The woman here who organizes the poetry slams is out for the first part of this week, but I think she will have more ideas. I’ll ask her when she comes back, and will email you with whatever else she can suggest. In the meantime, please let me know if you have any questions, or if you can be more specific about what you are looking for. Thanks, and take care.
This was at least a month ago, and I never got a response. I’m not sure if it was real or not, but if it was, I hope it was helpful. However (and granted, I am not a parent), it always bothers me when people refer to their child as “kid” and when it seemed parents are forcing their kids* into something for their own benefit. To wit:
Bruno Parenting FAIL video:
*Oddly, although calling one child “kid” bothers me, referring to a group of children as “kids” is perfectly fine. “Lady” works the same way - calling one woman “lady” seems rude, but referring to a group of women as “ladies” is okay. I am a complex person.
Some interesting comments on my last post got me thinking about reading, and why we encourage kids to read.
I know reading is vital for learning and personal development. But beyond that, is reading just for the benefit of the reader?
I wonder: is reading without sharing the experience akin to amassing a tremendous fortune and doing nothing with it? Society tends to paint as “greedy” people who accumulate wealth just for the sake of having more money than they know what to do with. At the same time, we reward philanthropists with awe and gratitude for “giving back” and sharing their excess wealth to benefit society.
So, should reading programs not just encourage kids to total up the number of pages and hours spent reading (which can lead to competition), but to also be “knowledge philanthropists” and share what they’ve learned and experienced from reading (which might lead to collaboration)? Or would that intimidate kids away from reading at all?
I’m not a children’s librarian or parent, so perhaps I’m just late to the party on this.
Sometimes, an innocent reference question has the potential to turn into a multi-million dollar industry.
Late one evening, a man in his early-forties came up to the desk:
Patron: I’m looking for someone to drive my kids. Me: Um… where to? Patron: My kids get home from school about 3 o’clock, but wife and I don’t get home from work until about 6 o’clock. Most of the activities they want to do (sports, dance lessons, piano lessons, etc.) are after school, but they can’t do them because I can’t drive them there. I’m looking for someone who can drive my kids to their activities and then bring them home afterwards. Can you give me the number of the group in town that does that? Me: I don’t know of any group that does that specifically. I think most people use nannies or babysitters, or carpools or relatives or neighbors. But I’ll check around and email you what I find.
After a little more talking, I learned that he and his family had immigrated here from India a little over a year ago, and so didn’t have family in the area and hadn’t met many people yet. They couldn’t afford to pay a babysitter, especially since the kids were old enough to be home alone, but just not old enough to drive.
I first checked with our Childrens Librarian, as the Childrens Desk usually knows about kid- or mom- or family-related resources in the area. And I was right. She told me that the middle schools in town have buses that move kids between the various schools to get them to school-related after-school activities. Also, she said that high school kids volunteer around town after school, and that perhaps he could find one of them that could drive his children around.
I next checked our Community Information database, which is a listing of social services and non-profit organizations in the area. Most of what I found were child services for low income families or at-risk kids, but there was also a listing for the Chelmsford Mother’s Club.
This club is kind of like a support group for new and expectant mothers, so I didn’t think it would help him directly. But I linked to the Mother’s Club website from CommInfo, and found that they had put together a great resources page. I couldn’t tell if any of them could help the patron, but it was a good list to start with.
I emailed these three options to the patron, but haven’t yet heard back.
And after thinking about this question for a few days, this really does sound like a business that could make a fortune.
One of the local television stations in Boston, WHDH 7, just aired an investigative story into libraries:
Theaters and video stores usually require an age of 17 or older to see or rent an R-Rated release, unless there is parental permission. But something altogether different is going on in some local libraries. 7News’ Jonathan Hall investigates.
This is similar to the situation we had here a little while ago (except without the undercover investigators), which prompted us to put label ratings on VHS and DVDs when possible. And it looks like the Boston Public Library, “in line with American Library Association guidelines,” is on the same page as us.
Libraries do not raise children, we provide access to information. Parents raise children, and we do what we can to support that need - while at the same time supporting the informational and educational needs of everyone else in the community.
I found this news report interesting, but a bit sensationalized. I’m sure as long as there are parents and children (and news outlets in need of ratings), issues like this will never die.
Here’s another one of those coincidences with the same topic popping up in different contexts throughout the day.
